These days lots of people are looking for love and sex online, particularly on dating sites like Tinder and OKCupid. But whether you’re looking for long term or just a one-night-stand, meeting people online isn’t that different from meeting them in the real world.
For the most part guys are lining up to talk to girls, trying out their best lines and hoping for the best. And just like in the real world some are fun and many are jerks (this applies to girls as well, but guys seem to take the prize in this contest online).
Even if you’re just looking to hook-up, your chances are better when you’re civilized. So here are some tips for getting lucky on your dating site of choice. So update your profile and get to messaging!
Open with a NON-SEXUAL question or comment. We know you like cleavage and wonder how we look naked. Try something more original and less juvenile. Ask a question or make a comment about something in her profile or photos.
Just say “hey” or “what’s up” or “how are you?” These work fine when you walk up to someone at a bar, but when you’re just one out of a hundred guys sending her messages, you’ll need to catch her attention. Think of something every other guy on every dating site probably isn’t saying already.
Show (or pretend) that you’re actually interested and you’re not just messaging every single girl on the website. One way to do this is to actually read her profile, if she has one. You don’t have to memorize it, but if you can comment on something she said you’ll improve your chances of getting noticed.
Rush her to meet up with you. You’ll have to earn that pleasure. Chat her up a little bit, build up her interest and give her a reason to want to meet with you. If she isn’t interested the first time you ask give her some time, or move on. Just don’t get pushy.
Make her laugh. Just like in real life, this works like a charm. Everyone likes to laugh and it makes you seem a lot more desirable to hang out with in person. So keep things light, crack some jokes, be silly and charming. Sometimes easier said than done, but if you’re compatible it shouldn’t be too hard.
Be rude. This relates to the other stuff I mentioned above – making crude comments, being pushy, etc. But it’s also about how you respond to her. If she’s not showing interest don’t start being a jerk. Nothing’s going to make sure she never becomes interested like throwing a tantrum.
Meet somewhere public the first time. Dating sites can be sketchy places and it’s easy for people to lie about who they are. Meeting someplace public makes everyone feel safe and comfortable, and if things go well you can talk about taking the party somewhere else, afterward.
Ask for nudes. This ties into the tip about not being rude as well, but is such a regular annoyance that it deserves its own section. Just because you want to share your junk with the world doesn’t mean she does too (or wants to see yours).
Again these tips can apply to guys and girls. Just remember to be civilized and mature, and you’ll improve your chances ten-fold. Online dating sites are a great way to get over that initial nervousness of meeting a person. It’s worth a try and can be a lot of fun.
And as ever if you need advice or help exploring new sexual territory online or in person email me today.