(Written for and published on Jasmin.com)
A little bit of fantasy and imagination in the bedroom goes a long way, so I thought I’d share some sexy themed advice with everyone for their next night of passion. You don’t have to talk in a funny accent or buy an expensive costume (unless you really want to), just ask your partner if they want to have some fun and try something new next time you’ve got a night to yourselves.
If you’ve never tried role-playing in the bedroom, you might think it sounds lame or would feel silly and embarrassing. But lots of us imagine sexy scenarios in our mind when we masturbate, and this is just the next step up from that! Whether you want your partner to pretend to be a sexy nurse helping their patient “feel better” or a police officer handcuffing and “punishing” you for being naughty, a little game of pretend can keep things fun and different.
And even if you don’t go as far as actually role-playing, there are other games you can play. Try teasing each other all the way up until you’re just about to orgasm and then easing off. Do this a few times and you’ll be begging to climax, and it’ll be that much better and hotter when you finally get there.
Everyone gets turned on by the pleasure sounds their partner makes – it lets you know you’re doing a good job and they’re enjoying it. Even if you’re not usually a noise-maker, think about using moans and reassuring phrases like “right there” and “keep going” to let them know just what feels the best. Ask them if what you’re doing to them feels good too, so that you can improve your bedroom game for next time.
You should talk about everything that was good afterward too. It can feel a little embarrassing to talk about sex outside the bedroom but they’ll feel encouraged knowing what you like and focusing on it in the future. It’s also a great way to get in the mood, thinking about past experiences that were really hot or felt really good.
Ice & Fire
Temperature play in the bedroom can be a lot of fun when it’s done right, and not a lot of people think to try it. It can be as simple as tracing an ice cube lightly along your partner’s skin, focusing on their nipples and thighs and other sensitive areas. Alternatively you can try warming or tingling gels that are used as lubricants. You can even just use hot, heavy breath to stimulate your partner while kissing and sucking on them.
Be careful if you decide to try out the warming gels though, some people have uncomfortable reactions to the ingredients, so try a little bit at a time. And lots of people say that they don’t taste very good unless it says right on the package that it’s meant to be edible. And if it does, try a few different flavors!
So there you go! A night (or a few nights) of fun and fantasy. Start out simple and branch out from there, you never know what you might discover you’re really into. And if you need advice on how to get started, or you have any problems along the way, find me on Twitter or Facebook and message me your questions!