(Written for and published on Jasmin.com)
Just because you and your boo are in a long distance relationship doesn’t mean you can’t still get it on, you just have to get creative. Using different video apps and some state of the art sex toy technology, you can be right there with them even when you’re not.
Video sex is even better than sexting and phone sex because you get to actually watch and your partner does too. There are plenty of ways to do this – FaceTime, Skype, Hangouts – but one of the best might be Rabbit. This site allows you to watch movies and shows together in a chatroom where you can see each other, and the best part is you can also browse the web together. And look at anything you want.
Seeing and talking to your partner naked can be really hot and get your imagination going. Just make sure no one’s going to walk in, and if you share a house with others, remember to be courteous about how loud things get. This should probably be a consideration whether you’re in a long distance relationship or a short distance one, really.
You might be thinking that seeing and pretending is just not the same, but masturbating with a partner can be amazing even in person. Seeing and hearing your partner climaxing is a huge turn on for most people and you might be surprised how enjoyable it can be over a video call. After all it’s a lot better than just pretending or nothing at all.
Try talking about what you would do if you were in the same room together, or what you want to do the next time you see them. This kind of fantasy play and planning will not only get your blood flowing right then but will make things even hotter the next time you do see each other. The heart isn’t the only thing that grows fonder with absence.
There are also plenty of toys made specifically for use in a long distance relationship now too. Many of them like Vibease, We-Vibe, and OhMiBod can be controlled using smartphone apps either by you or your partner. Just like masturbating together, vibrators can add to the fun when you are together as well! There are toys for guys as well as girls, check out your local sex shop (like Tampa’s The Todd) and have a look around.
Combine pleasure you can control by phone with pleasure you can see on a video screen and you’re not that far from being there in person. Of course we would all rather be able to hold someone in our arms rather than seeing them on a screen, but sex is important and you don’t have to miss out on it just because you’re in a long distance relationship. It’s probably better to be with someone you really want than someone you don’t really want but who lives closer, right?
So try it out! Dim the lights, light some candles, play some music – whatever sets the mood. Call your partner and heat things up with a strip-tease or online video. And don’t forget the lube! Just because you’re on your own doesn’t mean wetter isn’t better.
For more tips on making your long distance relationship work, or anything else love and sex-related, call or write me at DrYvonka@DrYvonka.com!